I have mentioned before that we have enjoyed living next door to our 98 year old neighbor Vivian for the past 20 years. She sort of adopted Bob and me as her children as neither of us has parents. She does have two living sons in the 60 year old range. They both live in Northern California. The sons both grew up in her house. She is a widow of 15 years now.
Over the years we have taken care of her including multitude hospital emergencies and surgeries. She had hip replacement at the age of 92. She was in a near death auto accident a year ago that has left her home bound. Her sons had put her in this awful nursing home for rehab. We busted her out of there. I won’t even describe the conditions they allowed their mother to live in there, and now at her run down house. Her plumbing is now all backed up. She ignores this and said she didn't want to pay for having the plumbing fixed because she probably will not be alive that much longer.
I cook dinner and send over a plate and portions for her to freeze, to supplement the meals on wheels she now gets delivered. Her sons were too lazy to even put in a smoke dector. So we did. We went out and bought one and installed it for her. We try to help out with her yard but it is so bad now it needs professional work. She is very cheap and does not want to spend money because it will take away from the son’s inheritance.
We know she can no longer live by herself. Her house is falling apart and is in need of serious plumbing work. She is afraid to complain or say anything fearing she will lose her independence. She has a worker from Scan that comes two times a week to clean and give her a bath and do some things. Now this person is working on her own time and no longer with Scan. Because I told her she needed to report the conditions and she told me.
Her sons say it is up to Mom to hire people to fix her house and yard. They come over and do nothing if they visit. It is to the point I cannot even go inside of her home because it is so dirty.
Should we contact Social Services? Something needs to be done. She could easily sell her house for about a million because of the location to the beach and that is what a lot basically sell for here. She refuses saying she is leaving it to her sons and does not want to live in an assisted living home. Her son told me he didn’t want to spend any money on the house because when they get it they will tear it down and it would be a waste of money. So they let their mother live in these conditions.
It is really sad. What would you do or suggest we do?